A mother-to-be who wanted to name her son in line with family tradition has been shut down by her husband’s family who says giving the child that name is “abuse”. The ensuing row that has emerged over the baby’s name is “tearing the family apart”, the pregnant woman said.
She says he originally agreed to naming their son in accordance with a name given to the firstborn son on her side of the family in the 1800s.
However, months out from the arrival of their baby boy, the husband has reneged on his promise, leaving his wife “crushed because this is so important to my entire family”.
She said: “I’m well aware it’s a stigmatized name today, so that’s why I have agreed to using a short form.
“The name is Gaylord. I get it, trust me, I know most people hate it. That is why I’ve been able to discuss with my parents and grandparents that he will go by Gail in daily life so that he doesn’t have to deal with bullies.
“They really didn’t like the idea, but I wore them down and they have agreed and don’t seem too offended by this.
“They see the backlash over the name today as a fad that will eventually disappear, and I agree seeing how accepting each generation tends to become. When society stops being so immature about it, he can start using the full name.”
She proposed the boy would go by Gail, but would have Gaylord on his birth certificate. The husband claimed he thought she was joking about the name.
She called out her husband for suggesting she was joking, noting that he has met her father and grandfather. She says it has caused friction between the pair as he won’t discuss the name as a viable option.
The husband told his family of the name suggestion and as a result they are “hounding” her of the “abusive” idea. The grandparents even had a slanging match over the phone.
“My in-laws are telling me that even Gail isn’t an acceptable boy’s name, and that I need to ‘get with the times’ and choose something more appropriate,” she continued.
“They gave me a list of approved names like I’m a child, which is incredibly offensive to me. They have no right to name my own baby for me.
“I don’t think my husband would have such an issue if it wasn’t for his family sticking their nose where it doesn’t belong, since he didn’t have a problem with it a year ago. What happened to respecting our elders and traditions?
“His family doesn’t have any naming traditions, so it should fall to my family that does. How could I be expected to break a centuries old family tradition?
“I can’t get past this, and neither can my in-laws.”
Posting the story on Reddit and asking for advice, she received one reply saying: “I work with elementary age children and this is a terrible idea. I’m sorry, but no. Definitely do not name your child Gaylord in any form or fashion.”
Another wrote: “Some traditions reach the point where they are no longer suitable for modern times. This is 100% that time. Pick another name.”
A third chimed in: “You both are letting family into a decision that is really between you and your husband. I think you should talk this out with your husband, and leave both sets of in-laws out of the discussion.
“You should both have an equal say in naming your child, and don’t be dismissive of one another.”
The poster later revealed that the post had been a prank and that her children are “impeccably well named”.
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