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Paul Wynn, 57, became breathless as he waited for his partner Alison at the altar on Friday June 25 and, when she arrived, he slumped into a chair. Family members desperately administered CPR and used a defibrillator but were unable to revive the groom.
Paul, a freelance photographer, was told he had cancer just eight days before the ceremony, Daily Record reports.
The disease was in his pancreas and had spread to his liver and lungs. He was given anywhere between six weeks and two months left to live.
So he and Alison brough their wedding forward in a bid to get hitched in the short time they had left together but, tragically, their final wish wasn’t fulfilled.
Alison, who changed her surname by deed poll a few years ago, said: “If I had known we didn’t have long I would’ve tried to arrange the wedding for the beginning of the week.
“He never actually got any treatment.”
When Alison, 38, arrived at Saltcoats Town Hall, she saw her partner of 21 years struggling for breath and he became lifeless.
Alison, who has five children with Paul, added: “He had actually been wheeled up in an office chair into the lift and taken up the stairs as he had no energy to get up to the room. He was out of breath and struggling from what I was told.
“By the time I got to him I called his name a couple of times.
“He didn’t turn round, he didn’t look at me and I realised there was something wrong and I started breaking down and I started shouting his name and we knew something wasn’t right.”
He would give you every last penny he had. He made sure that everyone got before him. He was there for everybody
Some of the 20 guests at the ceremony dashed to try to save Paul but he died at the scene.
His grieving partner, who lived with Paul in Stevenston, Scotland, said: “It was hard.
“It’s taken me a wee while to get to where I am now and every day just seems to merge into one.
“It feels like only yesterday that it happened. I’m having to get up and moving every day for the sake of my children but I can’t eat.
“Paul and I lost a child in 2004 after I had a miscarriage so it give me a bit of comfort that he’s up there with our child. His mother passed away in 2020 so at least he’s with her now too.
“He would give you every last penny he had. He made sure that everyone got before him. He was there for everybody.”
Paul, who had six other children from previous relationships, first contacted his GP about symptoms in May this year after constantly bleeding from his navel and was alarmed at how much weight he was losing without actively trying to slim down.
Eventually, Paul was struggling to eat and keep food down and was only able to consume liquids.
An endoscopy showed that he had three hernias and a CT scan the following day provided the devastating news that he had cancer.
He died just over a week later.
Paul proposed to Alison at a friend’s house in October 2019 and the happy couple set the date for July 16 this year but brought the ceremony forward after the crushing diagnosis.
After meeting in 1999 through the Jehovah’s Witnesses religious group, the pair had an on-and-off relationship throughout their 21-year history.
The happy union brought the couple five kids: Sandy, 20; Tarquin, 15; Marcus, 13; Louise, eight; and Poppy, four.
Alison said: “Paul loved going out and taking pictures of anything and everything.
“We were his life, he would do anything for his kids. He would move heaven and earth for his kids and everyone loved him.
“He really was a fantastic dad and his kids were his life.
“Paul was never a man to go to the pub or anything like that and if he went anywhere he went with me or with the kids; he never went anywhere without us.”
Now a fundraising bid has been launched to support the family during these difficult times to pay for Paul’s funeral.
Anyone that wants to donate can do so here: https://gofund.me/8557c958
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