Brit searching for sperm donor dad finds 25 brothers and sisters in US

A British man searching for his sperm donor dad was astonished to find he has 25 half-brothers and sisters in the US.

Oli Benjamin was born in 1999 after his mothers decided they wanted to have a child via IVF and embryo transfer.

His mum Jody and her female partner conceived him with an American donor, who remained anonymous, at a clinic in San Fransisco.

When Oli, whose story is being told in a new BBC documentary, turned 18 he began to search for his biological father, reports the Mirror Online.

The Londoner, who works in the events industry, eventually found his dad Daley Dunham.

But after flying to California to meet him, Oli decided he was "not interested" in having a relationship with his dad, saying they were "too different".

Oli found his dad, Daley, a few months after signing up to the US-based Donor Sibling Registry (DSR), after the American no longer wanted to remain anonymous.

Oli was contacted by a woman called Jordan who said she was his half-sister. He was then shocked to discover he has 25 American half-brothers and sisters.

The 21-year-old, who was diagnosed with Asperger's as a child, said he grew up feeling like an outsider. He was hoping to establish relationships with his half-siblings and father, Daley, 48. But things didn't go as planned.

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Speaking to the Sunday Times, before the debut of the 25 Siblings and Me documentary, he said he had "no interest" in forming a relationship with his dad and that his half-siblings feel more like cousins to him.

He said: "Genetics are the door to relationships, but they're not relationships."

Oli wanted the first meeting with his father to replicate a scene from a movie, but says his biological dad "was a bit like, 'Hi, No. 20-whatever'."

He added: "He'd been through it quite a number of times. It's funny because Daley and I are really not that alike at all. We're very different people."

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Oli and his half-siblings tell their story in the BBC documentary, with some revealing they were unaware they were conceived via a sperm donor.

However, finding his half-siblings and Dad, from California, has brought him peace.

He added: "It's much better for someone to be made aware of their donor and who their biological family are and choose not to have relationships with them, than to not know and to never meet them and never be able to make that decision for themselves."

Oli feels "quite different" to his half-siblings but has noticed they look similar in certain ways.

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He told the  Daily Mail in a separate interview it was "scary" meeting his relatives and the group reunion was "difficult" as it was such a large gathering.

He added: "I never saw Daley as a father figure, always like a cousin or an uncle. We aren’t anything alike personality-wise. But I did get his good teeth.

"The trip has shown me that your family are those who stick by you, who you grow up with, who care about you, as opposed to biological status.

"I have also learned to be more accepting of myself. It’s not about getting along with as many people as possible. It’s about getting along with the people that are right for you.

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"And I think I have found a few of those [among the siblings], so I am very happy. As far as I’m concerned, it’s a win."

His mum Jody, 46, and her now-former partner, flew to San Francisco to conceive Oli via IVF method that was not available to them in the UK.

They chose a donor and insisted it had to be a man who wanted to keep their anonymity to avoid a potential conflict later.

Jody, a director from Oxfordshire, also has twins aged nine, and carried the egg that her then-partner supplied for the IVF treatment.

25 Siblings And Me airs on Sunday at 9pm on BBC2. It is available on BBC Three and iPlayer.

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